Getting Naked with You

All my life I have been on a personal development journey.  Since I was 7 years old I have been asking myself “What does it take to be a better person?” I know you say that’s rather mature for a 7 year old, (except when you are an only child that’s one of the benefits of being around grown ups).  By no means does that mean I am always mature in every area of my life even to this day.

 

I admit that life has been more of a struggle than I would have liked it to have been, even today.  What I have discovered about myself is that I have this internal discontent for mediocrity.  Sometimes that serves me and other times it makes me a driving force to be reckoned with (says some of my friends).

Here is what I know today.  I just now realized as I am going through Keith Ferrazzi’s Relationship Mastery Academy (for the second time-I was in the beta class too) I had some of the qualities mixed up in what order they need to be engaged in to get better results with people.

Here is what I mean…when you are successful in developing a relationship people usually use some of these qualities:

generousity

intimacy

trust

candor

accountability

friendliness

openness

(these are just a few)  I have been at ease with candor since I was a child.  This quality is not appreciated until their is more trust. Funny thing for me is when you are not candid with me I do not trust you.  My mistake was thinking that everyone operated from my belief.  Yes, I know we all have our own beliefs, heck I teach it is many coaching programs.  It is very enlightening when you run smack dab into your own beliefs and can see where they have been more work than needed to be.

• How do you see the qualities and in what order do you notice you need them in your relationships?
• Do you notice in what order you give them in your relationships?
• It reminds me of another topic around relationships “5 Languages of Love”

If you have read this book you will recognize that you might need one type of love expressed  and your partner gives it in a way that is not your primary love language.

Same thing for developing business relationships.  The walls between personal and business are so ever thin and/or non existent today.  Just because someone is in Social Media and does really well at it, does not mean we have do not have more life lessons to learn.  I would go so far to say if I had learned all my life lessons I would probably not be here.

• How have you discovered creating relationships have worked for you?
• What are your strongest qualities?
• What are areas you can learn to improve?
• Who can you connect with as an accountability partner?

Here are some reading materials that have been helpful for me I wanted to share with you today.

Think & Grow Rich -Napoleon Hill (if you read it already, I challenge you to read it again, your perspective is different today)

How to Win and Influence People -Dale Carnegie

Never Eat Alone- Keith Ferrazzi

Tribes -Seth Godin

Biology of Beliefs -Bruce Lipton (this is deeper than the rest and very powerful)

Success Principles-Jack Canfield

Love to hear your experiences and lesson if you are willing to share with us.